Are You Safe With Her?
Are you safe with her?
Do you know that she will speak kindly and gently to you? Will she respect your story?
Will she brush aside your experiences, or tell you they're not a big deal?
"Stop being so emotional."
"Yep, you're a failure."
Will she tell you you're not strong enough for this world? Not pretty enough? Not smart enough?
Will she look you up and down and pinch and poke and point out your "flaws"?
Ah, dear one. Be gentle with her. She learned this behavior over a lifetime. For she listened to the story that said she was broken and she believed it. She heard she was worthless and she tucked it away. She felt she was different and alone and on the outside and she felt it had to be true.
Are you safe with her?
For she is you.
About the author
I'm Morgan Motsinger. I hold a BS in Psychology with a minor in Neuroscience from Portland State University, and I host P.S. We Expire, a podcast about grief, death, and what it takes to live well anyway. I also spent fourteen years caring for my daughter Anni, who died in 2022 (MPSIIIa). I write about grief from both sides of that — what the research says, and what it's actually like inside. Nothing here is medical advice, and I'm not a clinician. It's the explanation I wish someone had handed me.